If a man and a woman truly want to be happy in intimacy; then they must take the actual act of lovemaking as the core part of their intimacy generation. Barry Long explains that almost everybody on the planet has forgotten how to make true love; and this is because people make love with emotional expectation, with sexual excitation, with premeditated intent for an orgasm, and for physical release and projection of fantasy. And hence, by forgetting how to make true love, people, for thousands of years, have been making emotional love - a phantom love fed on the desires of self satisfaction; and thus a love that can never last because (like the ego) it can never be satisfied.

Barry Long explains and emphasises what attitude the man and the woman should have in each situation of intimacy, and that there should be honesty first, as well as, importantly, a consistent intention between the two that they do not seek to make love for the sake of a physical release or an orgasmic 'end'. But to make love simply for the pleasure of making love with each other, and for being in the 'present' during every millisecond of the act, rather than projecting their fantasies and getting excited about orgasm and fetishizing the respective partners' body.

Barry Long's book is excellent because it turns out to be the truth, and that true love and intimacy is something lasting and something ecstatic as opposed to the draining emotionality, expectance, and fantasy that is emtional\human love. His crucial point, is that if men and women want to be happy - they have to work on cooling their lower selves, and stop making love with excitment, projected fantasy, and premeditated orgasmic intent. He explains that as a result, the pleasure is astronomically higher, and that the bond between the man and the woman is strengthened. In order to strengthen the bond, he states that (seemingly contradictingly) one has to stop becoming emotionally attached, and to see the Divine behind one's wife or husband. When one becomes detached emotionally, then the spiritual bond strengthens in the knowledge that she or he is immortal, always exists in God's knowledge, and hence one is content in their love for them for the sake of their existence alone, rather than their wish to be emotionally involved with them to get something from them for the 'self'.

All in all, a superb book, and a potential life-changer, even though I do not agree with everything he says, there is a massive amount to be gained from this book, and it is truly the only book one needs to read if you want to get married or are curious about the truth regarding sex and love.