Patronising and stereotypical. (And I thought this kind of stereotyping was obsolete nowadays anyway!)
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Be warned, the first chapter of this book will make you cringe if you are not a 'Little woman' looking for a 'big, strong man', who _must_ be older, by at least four years, preferably more, and he definitely must be _taller_, preferably 6ft or more, and he must 'work hard' and be rich! And if the little woman is lucky, he may be a control freak and a persistent stalker who won't give up until the woman says yes, because _that_ is the type of men that "women" want! - Yes it really is that patronising. It makes no concession to maybe this is what _some_ women want but not all; it informs us that it is what _all_ women want!
If you are one of the many who are completely turned off by those types of men and instead want them younger, preferably a lot younger, (as long as they're legal, of course!) and you like them cute and no taller than yourself or even shorter, and you have a penchant for boys on the dole who are free for having a laugh with and lazing around all day because those are the types that appeal, then this chapter is certainly not for you! It's hard to see how it could appeal to anyone much if you are anything outside of the simpering little female stereotype or high achiever, professional executive type who nevertheless fits the little female role deep down, or if you're male and a high achiever professional type looking for a little woman to be suitably impressed, or if you're a he-man, builder type, looking for a little woman to push around and raise your kids. Because those stereotypes are who this book is aimed at.
The authors need to get out into the _real_ world and meet with a whole culture of people they are obviously unaware of!
It is written to appeal to extremely conventional (i.e. boring) people, and no other.
The whole first chapter (28 pages) can be summed up in one word. - Yuck! Cringe-making in its vileness. As for the rest, it's one dimensional rubbish like this that makes some perfectly cute, sweet, jobless, young, little, guys feel inadequate and develop complexes because garbage like this tells them that they are not what "women" want. Well, I am considered intelligent, clever and attractive by most people's standards and can talk easily to anyone, unless it's someone I am very attracted to, and then I get tongue tied and feel awkward and so I read this book hoping for some tips on how to overcome this and hook up with the people I find attractive, and not just ones I have no real interest in, and I find reading this that the type of guys I have no interest in, are the very types that "women" are 'supposed' to like, though according to this book, not just like, but 'love'.
The 'advice' churned out about how to communicate would only serve to make someone appear nosey by asking so many questions. - Take an interest in the person you want to attract, ask questions and they will love it. - In reality this could put many people off! People are aware of when they are being scrutinised by someone who is secretly interested in them and trying to find out all they can. - Aware and often creeped out by it.
Also, listen to this, one of the 'examples' of 'how to' goes like this: "When someone says to you 'I just got back from Mexico', you don't immediately say 'I've been to Mexico too!' - You have been there of course, but you build up to that."
I kid you not. The authors of this book really do believe that you are going to be having conversations with people who talk about going to or having been to Mexico, when all you may really want to do is to impress a jobless, cute little bad boy who hangs around in the street Some more words of wisdom are "Tell someone you were captured by their poetry reading!" - Oh my God! Just what planet are these people on?!
Oh, and get this, "Nearly all men love sport and most women don't, and the nearest they get to it is when attempting to wrest the remote control from a man's hands." Again, I kid you not.
There is one tiny section in the book that could be useful, namely a visualisation exercise, but the rest is full of the kind of patronising rubbish I have quoted above and full of the so-called 'advice' that if acted upon would make the type of guys I find attractive, feel inadequate and would encourage them to behave in ways that I would find abhorrent.
How dare these people speak for me and tell the world what they think I, as a woman, would find attractive. - They couldn't be more wrong!
This book is an insult to most people's intelligence. The 'advice' it contains about how to talk to people will make you come across as a patronising, creepy, freak who they will want to avoid. Which is precisely what you need to do with this book. - Avoid!
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Not groundbraking, good read
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I found nothing that can't be found in other similar books.
In a nutshell we are all self-absorbed, so look through the eyes of the other person if you want to be attractive to them.
There you go, save yourself some money!...
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